There are three phrases you must pay attention to that will help you decide to end a chronic unsatisfying, unfulfilling, and unloving relationship.
We struggle to end a long term unhappy relationship because we feel we have invested our time and emotional energy to that relationship. Many times we stay in a bad relationship for particle reasons such as financial and/or keeping the family together. By the way, staying in a unhappy marriage because of the children is a bad idea. Children learn about relationships by watching their parents’ own relationship with each other. You are showing your children, especially, your daughters, that their happiness does not matter.
The opioid crisis in America should focus on both intervention and prevention therapies. Not only do we need better treatments to help those suffering from opioid abuse, but we also need better medical and psycho-educational programs to prevent patients from getting addicted to those addictive medications.
Constipation is a side-effect of opioid usage. Some drug companies advertise heavily on drugs that supposed to treat constipation. This is the epitome of putting too much attention in alleviating side-effects of prescribed drugs. Equal attention should also be given in developing better preventive programs to avoid getting addicted to those drugs. Those who abuse opiates, for example, tend to have comorbidity with other psychological disorders. Chronic depression and anxiety are such comorbidity that need to be incorporated into preventive programs, more overtly.
Carol Gilligan’s book: In a Different Voice: “Psychological Theory and Women’s Development” was a mandatory book during my graduate school years in psychology. Her psychological theories about thinking helped me develop Personal Revolution Therapy’s , mental tool, technique number 2, ReThinking and ReExamining.
Ms. Gilligan said, “I’ve found that if I say what I’m really thinking and feeling, people are more likely to say what they really think and feel. The conversation becomes a real conversation.”
I think that having effective conversations is the key for positive change. However, how to establish effective conversations is a learning skill. We talk about the need to have good conversations, but we, sometimes, don’t take the time to learn that skill or admit that we may have deficiencies in the way we communicate, thus, leading to no change, personally and/or at the workplace.
Dr. James Triana