BBC News said that the Parent Television Council (PTC) issued a complaint over Miley Cyrus’s sexually provocative performance at the MTV VMAs. This incident was not the first time that a celebrity’s performance exhibited inappropriate sexual innuendos to a program that is viewed by many minors, and it will not be the last. Children and adolescents whose parents do not provide their kids with proper guidance on how to have a healthy understanding about sex are influenced to act impulsively sexually by what they see in the media. Social media as a whole does not care about the ethics or morals of how adolescents should behave sexually. Most social media only care about ratings and profits. If PTC is doing its part to culturally shape public perception which in turn influences political action, parents must do their part to educate their children about sex and help them express to their own sexuality with self-respect and integrity. The problem arises is that most parent do not know how to talk to their children/adolescents about sex.
Personal Revolution Therapy provide parents with step by step guidance on how to talk to their kids about sex. First, before diving into talking to your kid about sex, parents must set a platform before discussing to topic of sex. What kind of platform? A platform that clearly states to your child that by talking about sex that they will not get them into trouble. There exceptions to the rule however and they should be stated up front. Tell your child that, if they hear something that could directly cause harm to them, same as using drugs, that it is the role of the parent to take proper action to protect them immediately.
Second, when talking to kids about sex, parents need to do more listening than talking. When we lecture children about sex, they usually tune out. The goal is to have an open discussion about sex. How does a parent start listening? A parent starts listening by posing non-judgmental questions. For example, “What does sex mean to you?” By posing open ended and non-judgmental questions, kids are more likely to talk more. When kids began sharing about their views about sex, parents can take note on how that child perceives sex. Most kids have inmate healthy boundaries. Parents just need to reassure them that is ok to implement them without peer pressure or media influence.
The third goal is to help your children think for themselves. When kids become self-thinkers they tend to act more responsible. By helping your child see for themselves that certain acts viewed on TV or see something in their peers that are unhealthy, their own instincts tell them that it just doesn’t feel right, your child the can make their decision to avoid those sexual acts, therefore, building healthy views about sex that can later be transcended in entering into a healthy intimate relationship as adults.